Going With Your Gut

John Picciuto
3 min readJul 27, 2022


How do you learn how to trust yourself?

Call it what you want but gut instinct has been something I’ve tried my best to maintain and allow to lead my entire life. There’s a lot of noise in the world and it’s easy to get put off from believing in what your instincts are telling you, I’ve struggled a lot with this at different times in my life, but I’ve found in the moments when I truly trust myself, and believe what my instincts are telling me, things usually work out in my favor.

Trusting your gut can be applied to so many aspects of your life. Dating & relationships, work, really all instances where decisions need to be made. So how do you learn to trust yourself? How do you hone the skill to believe in what your gut is telling you? The truth is, it’s a learning process and definitely not an easy one.

You hone the skill of trusting your gut through trial and error. It’s easy to ignore the voice in your head as a pessimist or god forbid an optimist. I’ve found that voice in my head is often times polar opposite in either positivity or negativity. As if the sum of all our choices in life can be boiled down to only good or bad things. Some events just happen without a wholly positive or negative outcome. So how do you develop the ability to trust yourself? Living your life and making decisions.

Look there are a lot of pros & cons when it comes to intimately trusting in your gut. On the situations in which you make a “right” decision it seems almost preordained. That whatever choice you made worked out because it was always meant to, and I believe in that greatly. Conversely it’s easy to see why making a “wrong” decision could be predestined for you because you don’t deserve good things. That every negative in your life is meant to torture you. The truth lies somewhere in the middle.

As I’ve spent the last 30+ years developing who I am, and what I want out of life I’ve been able to find this sweet spot of happiness. I trust myself and I believe in my instincts because I’ve spent a lot of years finding the right paths for myself and living with those decisions. They’re not always right, and the wrong ones tend to have even better long term impacts on you than the right ones do. Lessons learned through pain have a funny way of sticking with a person.

I am a big believer of what’s meant for me will find me. And what’s meant for you will find you. Don’t chase things in life that don’t feel natural or like a fit. What’s meant to be will always find its way into your life. Like me with photography, or my podcast, those things while difficult to come into my life have ultimately lead me to the most happiness and gratitudes I could ever have imagined.

When you start believing in yourself, and the things you want out of life are coming for you and meant for you, life starts coming to you in a simpler, more graceful way. I truly believe we have the ability to manifest the life we want for ourselves and we can start doing that by building our instincts to trust we’re creating the life we want for ourselves. The path is never easy, it is almost never linear, but eventually you fall into the right places, at the right times, and life makes sense.

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John Picciuto

Storyteller, Photographer, and host of The Wrong Advice Podcast. You can find more of my work at www.johnpicciuto.com